There is a very big difference between emotional intimacy- let's call it romance- and physical intimacy- lust, for lack of a better term. Sorry folks, I know I don't usually come BANG out of the gate like that, but stick with me here.
People tend to loop the two together into a single idea, a relationship as common terminology insists. Actually, we have come a far way to separate the two into two different, albeit related concepts.
Because they are inherently related. Movies like Friends with Benefits and No Strings Attached (Which came out within a couple months of one another, what a nightmare) assure us viewers that physical relations can't stay JUST physical- that eventually, emotions kick in.
But is that true?
I don't know. Listen guys, cards on the table here, never been in either kind of relationship. BUT I'm pretty good at making things up and pretending to be an expert at them, so let's see how I think I would feel about it.
People raised in this day and age think that it is wrong to only like someone for their body. Why? Well, they might respond, because someone is so much MORE than their body. I agree with that, but that doesn't mean you can't or shouldn't like someone exclusively for their body. If you liked someone exclusively for their personality, and found them repulsive physically, why is that okay, and even considered a good thing?
You can like someone exclusively for their body. It's okay. Lust is a natural thing that affects pubescents and post-pubescents, and it's no use trying to fight it. Does that mean walk around naked and proposition everyone? No! Really, don't do that. That would make people uncomfortable.
That means that it is okay to be interested in people for their body. It's okay to experiment, kiddo.
Full disclosure, I don't experiment. But it's totally cool if you want to.
And now is the point when you know what this is talking about, for some of you. But don't get mad, just let me finish.
Romance is very different. Romance is the "d'awww" stuff that makes teenage girls [supposedly] swoon, and usually ends with two people holding hands and walking into the sunset. This type of intimacy is glorified. Why? Because it isn't sexual.
Sometime way back when, people had a falling out with sexuality. Maybe they were having a rock-paper-scissor battle, and sexuality lost to WWE as a socially acceptable and morally acceptable topic.
Eh, but I spend too much time trying to fight the battle for humans to be comfortable with their sexuality. Most of the people reading this won't go past saying "Crap entry is crap". Which may be true. I've made some real stinkers. Whatever, read it and weep. I'm hoping to have another entry up before next Friday, but don't rely on me.
Thanks for reading and considering,
-J. Valett
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